Gracious Eyes

Gracious Eyes

Years ago I completed a particularly sad divorce mediation. The husband had tried for years to meet his wife’s expectations, but she was adept at finding fault with everything he did. Shortly after our final meeting, I read an article in Country Magazine in which...
The Nail

The Nail

This is a test. Watch the following two minute video clip and decide which person you sympathize with the most. (If a video screen does not appear below, click here). As you watch it, put aside our all-too-common stereotypes and realize that this exchange could take...
Wounding and Healing

Wounding and Healing

Many of us have no idea how often we wound the people around us. We don’t deliberately set out to hurt others, but because of our natural insensitivity, we frequently stomp on others’ dreams and feelings without even realizing it. The following video clip illustrates...
Building Passport

Building Passport

I have dozens of passports, and I need to renew them constantly. No, I’m not James Bond or Jason Bourne. I don’t fly from country to country using alternative identities to evade the NSA, CIA, or MI6. I just love people. I enjoy meeting, understanding, encouraging,...
Confession Killers

Confession Killers

If you want to make a confession utterly worthless, use one of these three phrases. “I’m sorry if I’ve done something to upset you.” When you use these words, what people hear is, “I don’t know that I’ve done anything wrong, but since you’re obviously...