Where Sorrow Begins

charles-spurgeon[fusion_builder_container hundred_percent=C. H. Spurgeon wrote, “Where self begins, sorrow begins.”

That’s a diagnosis that explains most of my unhappy moments.

Angry? Usually because I am not getting what I want.

Resentful? Someone didn’t treat me the way I think they should.

Self-pity? People just don’t appreciate me.

Bitter? I can’t believe that she, of all people, failed me this way!

Happy? Content? Peaceful? — Anytime I die to myself, live for God, and serve others!

Where self begins, sorrow begins. Where self dies, joy begins.

– Ken Sande

Reflection Questions

  • What do these passages say about focusing on yourself: John 12:24, Matt. 10:39; Phil. 2:3-4?
  • Think of a time when you were especially happy and fulfilled? Who were you focusing on, yourself or others?
  • Think of a time when you were angry, resentful, bitter, or crippled with self-pity? Who were you focusing on, yourself or others?
  • Do you see a pattern in your life? What can you ask God to do about it?

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© 2014 Ken Sande

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