The Three P's of Satisfaction

The Three P’s of Satisfaction

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3Ps Block (300x300)It’s not often that an attorney loses a lawsuit, along with her two million dollar contingency fee, and yet walks away satisfied.

I’ve seen similar satisfaction with employees who didn’t get a promotion. With church members who disagreed with their pastors. And with children who could not escape discipline.

The relationship-saving concept in each of these situations is surprisingly simple and yet amazingly effective, whether in a courtroom, business, church or home. It’s called the “Three P’s of Satisfaction.”

Before I explain it, let me tell you about the attorney who lost the fee of a lifetime.

25% of Nothing is Nothing

Mary Anne represented a man in Texas who bought an oil field from another man. When the buyer began to drill wells, production was far below what he anticipated. So he sued the seller for fraud, asking for eight million dollars in damages.

Their sales contract included a legally binding conciliation clause requiring them to settle any disputes through biblical arbitration. As the administrator for the case, I appointed a panel of three arbitrators who had extensive experience in oil and gas law.

The parties’ attorneys spent a year collecting interrogatories and depositions. They then argued their positions for three days before the arbitrators. After an hour of discussion, the panel issued an award in favor of the seller, denying the buyer’s eight million dollar claim entirely.

Since Mary Anne was working on a contingency fee (which meant she would get 25% of whatever she won for her client), she lost out on receiving an anticipated two million dollar attorney’s fee. That meant that she received nothing for a years’ worth of work.

A Surprising Evaluation

We always send out evaluation forms to the parties and attorneys in our cases. Since Mary Anne lost the case and failed to collect a fee, I expected her evaluation to be extremely critical.

When I received her form two weeks later, I was stunned. It was one of the most positive evaluations I had ever received in all my years as a conciliator.

“We recently completed a three-week arbitration in an $8 million case that was intensely fought. The case involved allegations of fraud and RICO violations, so the atmosphere was highly charged.

The arbitrators began the sessions with prayer and Scripture. It is my belief that the spiritual tone they set contributed greatly to the dignity and amicability with which the proceedings were conducted. Because we were able to select arbitrators who understood the engineering, geological, and accounting data involved in 82 gas wells, it is my belief that the presentation of the evidence was smoother and significantly less time-consuming than it would have been had we tried the matter before a judge or jury.

I also believe that your arbitration process lends itself to getting at the truth. Even though the result in the case was not what we wanted, I am enthusiastic about alternative dispute resolution in general and Christian conciliation in particular. I have recommended your organization to others and will not hesitate to turn to you again in an appropriate case.”

Wow! She lost a huge attorney’s fee and still turned around and recommended biblical arbitration to another attorney.

The Three P’s of Satisfaction

Mary Anne’s positive view of our process was the result of our making every effort to provide her client and her with three types of satisfaction:

  • Process satisfaction, which requires a fair, orderly, and even-handed process where everyone feels that they’ve had a reasonable opportunity to present their side of the matter (1Cor. 14:40)
  • Personal satisfaction, which requires treating everyone with respect, courtesy, and equality, just as we would want to be treated ourselves (Matt. 7:12, James 2:1-4)
  • Product satisfaction, which requires a final solution that is as reasonable, just and equitable as is humanly possible (Micah 6:8; Prov. 28:5)

Two Out of Three Usually Works

Here’s the key: although most people involved in a decision-making (or conflict-resolving) process will focus most of their energy on achieving a particular outcome (product satisfaction), in the long run they will also place a great deal of value on how they were treated during the process.

This means that even if a final decision is not entirely to their liking, they will often accept the result with equanimity if the decision-makers provided them with a high level of both process and personal satisfaction.

I cannot emphasize this point too much: Give people process satisfaction (the opportunity to fully and candidly share their views) as well as personal satisfaction (treating them with sincere courtesy and respect), and you’ll be surprised how content they’ll be even if they disagree with your substantive decision.

And if you succeed in giving people all three types of satisfaction, you’ll find that they will trust and respect you more, and be even more enthused about supporting the decisions you make.

You Can Use the Three P’s Anywhere

The Three P’s work as well at home, at church, and in the workplace as they do in an arbitration hearing.

Whether you’re dealing with a marital disagreement, a debate with your kids about buying the latest electronic gadget, an employment issue, or differing positions during a congregational meeting …

… you’ll be far more likely to preserve respect, unity, and relationships if you make every reasonable effort to provide others with process, personal, and product satisfaction.

– Ken Sande

Reflection Questions

  • The main complaint people have about going through civil litigation is how attorneys use constant objections to keep them fully telling their side of the story. Why do you think this is so frustrating?
  • When was the last time you were involved in a disagreement and someone else made a decision you disagreed with? Did you walk away satisfied or dissatisfied? Was it just that you didn’t get the result (product satisfaction) you wanted, or was it also that you weren’t satisfied with the process or the way you were treated personally?
  • When was the last time you had to resolve a matter by making a decision someone else didn’t like? Did they walk away generally satisfied or dissatisfied? What more might you have done to provide them with process and personal satisfaction?
  • The next time you have the opportunity to make a decision that will settle a disagreement or determine a course of action, what could you do to increase the likelihood that others will walk away with all three types of satisfaction (process, personal, and product)?

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© 2014 Ken Sande

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10 Responses to "The Three P’s of Satisfaction"
  1. I appreciate the idea of using the 3 P’s. As a manager I often push the processes of change in my department. In the future I will attempt to include my associates in the process.

    Thank you for sharing this.

    Kathy James

    • It is a great managerial tool. Many managers simply tell their people what to do and then wonder why they’re not fully engaged in carrying out the plan. It’s because they have no sense of ownership in what’s going on. When they’re part of the decision making process, they’re much more likely to give it their full support.

    • You’re so right, Curt. Most of the church interventions I’ve done would have never reached the boiling point if the church leaders had been practicing the 3P’s.

  2. Great timing! I’m an engineer in a tissue mill. Later today, I have a meeting with a contractor to go over some issues we both have with each other pertaining to two recent projects. Unfortunately, I didn’t follow the 3 P’s, and escalated the issues to a much higher level than they should be at using overly strong email messages. Now, I’m hoping to use this meeting to come to some sort of common ground with the contractor and put out the fires that are currently burning both sides of the bridge, and I’m hopeful that this 3 P’s message will help me to that.


  3. If only … if only all conflicts and differences could be addressed and resolved so simply. Kathi and I are just back from Vanuatu where land disputes are the cause of major conflicts, including attempted murder and threatening a 16 year old daughter. The 3Ps would work, but only if both parties were prepared to follow the 4 Gs and the 7As! The 3P posting is so helpful. Thanks Ken.

    • You’re right, Dave, this all works so much better if all sides are willing to live by biblical principles. But since that is often not the case, I’m glad that even one Christian faithfully following God’s Word can often move things in a more constructive direction … even if others are not fully cooperating. But the best news of all is that God doesn’t measure our success in terms of results but rather in terms of faithfulness to him and his purposes. If we do our best according to the knowledge he has given us, he smiles at us and says, “Well done, good and faithful servant.” I’m glad you are back safe and sound, brother.

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